If I Only Knew…

If Only I Knew

If I only knew back then:

That a simplified life was within my reach.

That buying all the stuff for our new home was a waste of time, money and energy.

That throwing these huge birthday parties for my kids would not make their lives any better.

That hanging out with small minded people would make me, well, small minded.

That filling all the minutes of my day with tasks and activities would not create an enriching life for me.

That the importance of health is underrated and I should make the time to look after myself.

That sleep is more vital than we realise.

That having a wedding with 30 guests would have been far better than a wedding with 100.

That what people show on the outside is not a true reflection of what is going on inside.


But these things, I didn’t know back then. I do now. And the difference is, I can appreciate what I know now more than I could have back then when I was younger.

Not knowing back then what I know now allowed me to experience some hard lessons and some frustrations. But these were all lessons that had to be learnt.

If you told me 10 years ago that I was hanging around with too many small minded people, I would have denied it.

If you told me I shouldn’t be throwing big parties for my kids, I would have ignored you.

If you told me I should have given up some of the activities I was involved in, I would have argued with you.

Yes I wish I knew some of the things I know now. I wish I had started my unbusy journey years ago, or had not embarked on a crazy busy life instead. But there’s no point wasting my energy on regret and wishful thinking.

You may have found this post as somebody about to begin their unbusy journey, or someone who has finally had enough of living a life of busyness and less meaning. Maybe you have finally embraced minimalism and simplicity and wondered why you never did it earlier.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing. But so is living in the present moment.

Forget “if I only knew” and remember “what I know now”. Use what you know now as your source of inspiration moving forward. It will be far more rewarding than regretting the past!

What do you wish you knew when you were younger? What do you know now that will help you shape the rest of your life? Share with me in the comments.

This post is linking up with “I must confess” via the wonderful blog “My Home Truths”:

I Must Confess