Happy New Year to all my readers!
My wish for you is that you have a happy, safe and restful 2015, and that you take some time to enjoy each moment that presents itself.
The beginning of a new year can be an exciting time, as we are given the chance for a “do-over”. The possibilities and opportunities for the next 12 months seem endless. But the other side of the coin is that we can feel pressured to set high expectations for what we want to achieve: it could be weight loss, giving up smoking, business expansions, radical makeovers.
Although we do not know what is in store for each of us this year, we can set intentions for the way we want to think, feel and behave in any given moment. We can focus on how we want to live our lives.
My intention for 2015 is to continue to live a less busy life- to honour each moment of each day. I want to embrace life for what it is, rather than trying to control a situation, or keep up with the busyness that many of us get caught up in.
Perhaps you are thinking of doing the same. Perhaps 2014 was a crazy busy time for you, and the year flew by and left you wondering where the time went. Perhaps you realised that life can feel like it is slipping by. Perhaps you are tired of trying to keep up with a hectic pace. Perhaps you just want to slow down.
If your inner voice is telling you that the way you are approaching your life is not the best way, maybe it’s time to listen.
There is ALWAYS a better way.
Many of you know that I was laid off from my job of 10 years in late November. I decided I would embrace my time not working, and that I would enjoy 2015 and live a slower pace.
Well, the first six weeks of being unemployed created a mix of emotions. Although my body was trying to tell me to slow down, that silly voice in my head was saying that it wasn’t right for me to simply enjoy not doing anything. The guilt started to set in- my husband would come home from work each day absolutely exhausted, while I spent the day pottering around the house. Or reading a novel.
I’m a modern day woman who has been used to juggling a career and motherhood, and household responsibilities. I felt a bit “naked” without having a career anymore.
In fact, as stupid as this sounds, I felt like I had lost a part of my identity.
That’s when I realised that for many of us, our careers are our identities. Think about when you meet someone for the first time. What’s one of the first questions you might ask the other person? “So, what do you do?”
And for the first time, I do not have a concrete plan for the year. We have a big vacation planned for the family later in the year, and I am focusing on finishing my degree. But workwise, no plans at all.
And that’s ok. Because life is about enjoying each moment, and not just focusing on what we want our futures to look like.
It’s ok to think about the remaining 11.5 months of 2015 and think “I have no idea what is in store for me this year, but that’s ok because I will enjoy every moment”.
This shift in perception requires changing the mindset- going from thinking about tomorrow, or next week, or next month, to thinking about today.
Thinking about now.
If you want to slow your pace down, start off by changing your perception towards time. Think about the present moment- are you enjoying what you are doing right this minute?
If you would rather be reading a novel than washing the dishes, then give yourself permission to stop and read.
If your child has asked you to play a game with him/her, then give yourself permission to stop what you are doing and go play that game.
If your friend has called you right in the middle of household chores, stop, sit down and have that conversation.
Focus your efforts on how you want to think, feel and act in each moment of 2015.
The rewards for changing your perception will be plentiful, I promise you. Living the life you were meant to live will result in new opportunities and possibilities presenting themselves to you. You will notice a shift in your mood, your attitude, and your energy. You will start to attract opportunities that reflect your change in mood.
Now that sounds exciting, doesn’t it?
It sounds a whole lot better than setting to-do lists, new year’s resolutions, or goals.
Please stay in touch, and let me know if you have decided to live a slower pace, and how this has changed your life. Throughout 2015, I will continue to share with you tips and ideas on how to live a less busy, and more meaningful life. You deserve it!
Happy new year!